For the first 8 years of my relationship with Kati, I was stubbornly anti-marriage. We spent years working on our relationship, and it hasn’t gone to waste.
What does it mean to be manly in 2014? As a verified male, I’m going to give my point of view about what I consider manly, and how I measure up.
Everyone keeps asking me, but I don’t know what to tell them. Being a husband isn’t really any different than being a boyfriend. Why do others think it is?
Everyone knew this was coming, and I mean EVERYONE. Any time I would talk about my views on the pointlessness of marriage, the response was always “Some woman will come along and break your rules.”
For most of my life, I have worked on me. I have been making quiet internal efforts to analyze who I am, what I want, and who I should spend my time with. Because of this I now have a superpower.
In order to keep sane in a long-term live-in relationship, each person is going to need space. This doesn’t have to negatively affect intimacy, as long as you do it right.
Some people hate arguments, but they are going to happen in any long-term relationship. Get good at them or get ready to be unhappy. I’ve written my handy guide to arguing here and I hope it helps.
There are hundreds of things that women look for in a man. Each woman may prioritize them differently, but given enough time they could write an Encyclopedia Britannica of things that they want in a man. Quite frankly, those things just aren’t who we are.
Some sociology and relationship experts (whatever those are) assert that no one will ever experience the passion and excitement of their first relationship again, and that they should completely forget their first relationships. As much as this feels like common sense to me, I feel resistant to the notion.
Being unemployed has its way of giving you tons of time to search your thoughts. Stagnation is slow death, so I begin to ponder my future.