Boundaries and If Then Statements

I stumbled on an interesting thing about boundaries during my relationship counseling and since. As a coder, I began thinking of boundaries as if then statements. Rather than as rigid laws of nature that’re impossible to break without destroying the entire system. Since then, when I’ve communicated my boundaries to someone, I’ve always done what I consider a coding best practice and included an “else” statement.

Because there are always blind spots to even the simplest things. Providing a path forward in those unexpected circumstances can keep my dignity, safety, and sometimes my relationships intact when they come up.

Now, a year after realizing I’m autistic, one of the writers in the Neurobeautiful community shared this. It’s become a cross-section of previously disparate parts of my life. A truth that many arrived at from different origins. Perhaps that gives it more weight.

Let me know if I didn’t explain this well enough. I can give examples, but for now I just wanted to share it. ❤️