Trans & Enby Coming Out
I gave out some advice in a trans/non-binary group I’m in and I think it might be relevant to others.
The author of the post was sharing that they were about to come out to their significant other of 4 years, and was asking for advice and encouragement.
My advice was:
When I’ve come out to people in my life who are closest to me (and have a somewhat relevant stake in my gender), it has always come up that they want to know what I want and expect from them. So I recommend having some of that stuff in mind.
You’ll have your own, but mine are:
- Use they/them whenever you can, especially when you talk about me to others.
- Don’t be dramatic when you mess it up. Quickly self-correct and move on, and I’ll appreciate the effort.
- Think critically about how gender (not sex) affects everyone and how we communicate.
- Don’t perpetuate the social conditioning on today’s young people that made survival more difficult for the adult queer people in your lives now. #protectTransKids
- Ask me questions if you have them. Don’t worry about them being “too much”. I love you, you’re close to me, and we can share this stuff.
And that’s it. Otherwise just the same as ever. ❤️