Coming Out Trans & Enby

I gave out some advice in a trans/non-binary group I’m in and I think it might be relevant to others struggling to communicate gender stuff.

The author of the post was sharing that they were about to come out to their significant other of 4 years, and was asking for advice and encouragement.

My advice was:

When I’ve come out to people in my life who are closest to me (and have a somewhat relevant stake in my gender), it has always come up that they want to know what I want and expect from them. So I recommend having some of that stuff in mind.

You’ll have your own, but mine are:

Use they/them whenever you can, especially when you talk about me to others.
Don’t be dramatic when you mess it up. Quickly self-correct and move on, and I’ll appreciate the effort.
Think critically about how gender (not sex) affects everyone and how we communicate.
Don’t perpetuate the social conditioning on today’s young people that made survival more difficult for the adult queer people in your lives now. #protectTrans K i d s
Ask me questions if you have them. Don’t worry about them being “too much”. I love you, you’re close to me, and we can share this stuff.

And that’s it. Otherwise just the same as ever. ❤️